I read a blog post, a while ago, about friendships and how they are supposed to always, always end. (Will post the link when I find it)
And the writer was absolutely right.
There was this line in the article that I really liked, and it was something like
“Your friends would do exactly what they promised they won’t do”
And this is a fact. Because when we make friends we just consider them “our friends”, forgetting the most crucial fact.. they are also “people”.
No one’s like you, no one is supposed to be like you. What would be the fun in life when everyone was just the same as you are. What would be the fun if everyone understood each other.
That article constantly reminded that all friendships eventually reach the same fate… “THE END”… all are supposed to end at one point or the other, the thing is, when would that point come.. sooner than you think.. or later than you anticipated.
But I have to disagree with the “ALL” part. Not ALL friendships end. Sometimes you have to make compromises, sometimes you forget about your ego for the other person, that is the time when you realize that your ego is insignificant as compared to the friendship you share with that particular friend of yours. Sometimes you give the other person a second chance. Sometimes you find a way out of the misunderstandings. Sometimes the fights would lead to a better, stronger friendship.. but not all the time… So you fight when you want to end the misunderstandings and continue with the good times as if they were not interrupted at all.
But there are also times,….
When you realize that there are too many misunderstandings, too many problems without a solution, at that time, instead of using harsh words and ending up hurting each other and THEN ending everything.. it’s better just to end it, without the preceding “big fight”.
Sometimes goodbye’s the only way… for everyone involved. It’s not good, but then again, it’s not supposed to be good, but it’s the only way.. and you would eventually GET OVER IT, you’ll HAVE TO.
Say your goodbyes with a smile.. and let go…
12 comments:
Intricate! (okie I am not suppose to write your name here ;))
You write so well.. I must be your biggest fan :P
I agree with this>> when we make friends we just consider them “our friends”, forgetting the most crucial fact.. they are also “people”<<
still ending up the friendship is difficult and other person will definitely hurt either you give him/her a reason or not..
For me saying Good byes with a smile to a friend who trusted you one time, who use to be your sincere friends in bad times... is not possible for me!! I wish such moments will not come in our life :)
@Zaynab
oh bhiee... you are not only my biggest fan.. you are my ONLY fan :D :)
And thanks for such a nice comment, you made my day :D
and yes, ending friendships are always difficult.. but sometimes you don't end them.. they just end :)
Hope it doesn't happen with anyone :)
Very nice article keep up the good work. You gave a great expression to the feelings of so many people.
You find so many people especially sensitive ones who find it hard to get over such incidents particularly because they just do not know how to handle it and your article has put it out such nicely.
Please keep it up.
By the way I thought. I was your biggest fan, but ...</b
@ammadsal
Thank you for the appreciation. :D
It is hard to get over such incidents.. well, sometimes it is, but you have to, coz there is no other way out. :)
I disagree. I TOTALLY disagree :-) (do I have that option?) :-).
Friendships never end. Happy endings or sweetly saying goodbyes are not options when you're in a friendship. It isn't/wasn't friendship it is ending. Seriously, what good is the friendship if it ends.
Obviously, our friends are people, they have priorities, but thats what friends are for, to understand that others have priorities. I'd rather say, friendship is defined as a lifetime relationship...
@Haris Gulzar
Of course, you have the option bhiee.. It generates an exchange of ideas..
Agreed, on that part, that if it ends.. it wasn't friendship to begin with :)
But sometimes, you think it's a friendship.. and sometimes.. as we both agreed, that friends are people, and people change... or maybe you didn't understand that person in the beginning, you took that person for something that he/she wasn't.. So you should analyze a person a lot, before you start calling them your friend, that way, at least you won't go through the process of ending it, or maybe you'll just decrease the chances of that happening.. :) but that's just my opinion, you are obviously entitled to yours :)
This is so true.. while reading it i felt like u've given words to my thoughts cuz this is really what i feel too.. well expressed, keep it up yaar!
@Ambreen Ali
Thanks for visiting Intricate Zone.
And thanks a lot for appreciation. Means a lot to me. :D
Excellent bina, I love it :)
Very well written... so true and realistic!
@Nadia
Thankyouuuu... :D
Nicely said, Intricate Zone. :)
Most of the friendships have to end sooner or later. Even if not through a misunderstanding, people change with time. And letting go is certainly painful, but well time doesn't stop for anyone.
And yes, there are those special friendships too that only end with your life. Except that such friendships are rare. :)
@Samah
Welcome to the blog :)
Thanks for the appreciation :)
I guess we can all work to change the fact that life long friendships are rare.. but it would be good if we could all have at least one of such friendship :)
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